Is gendered politeness easy to change?
Earlier this week I posted about finding a job myself, and my kiddo having a job they love.
I came to the -sudden- realization that with the adults in the house all employed and away at different times of the day, my one teen would need a cell phone to reach us.
So a call to @fidomobile was necessary.
I know Fido is pretty inclusive during Pride month. I’ve posted about this before.
Ten minutes into the call explaining that I would like to add a new line for my youngest child, I mentioned that my middle child, Ash, would like to increase their data to 5g.
Without missing a beat throughout the rest of the conversation, this amazing person 4 provinces away from me, used Ash’s pronouns without hesitation!
🏳️🌈I felt seen as a parent and as an advocate. 🏳️🌈
The customer service agent with Fido could have used Ash’s name, but instead used both Ash’s name and pronouns to connect with me.
I recently began working in customer service again. I love interacting with people!
As part of the 2SLGBTQ+ community I sincerely appreciate when I am not immediately gendered when I am greeted while shopping.
As I greet each person and connect with them, I found myself immediately reaching back to what I had been taught so long ago.
My “Thank you sir/ ma’am” quickly turned into
“Thank you have a fantastic day!”
“Enjoy the sunshine “
“Stay safe on the roads”
“Enjoy the weekend with your grandkids!”
Terms of respect are gendered, the words you use to describe people are gendered, the pronouns you use for someone, without asking, are gendered.
In businesses, organizations, in schools, in healthcare, we need to learn a more inclusive way than using gendered language.
We don’t have to start or finish a conversation with gender. We start and finish a conversation by connecting, awareness and with compassion.
Jody Tucker (she/her)
Coordinator | President
Spruce Grove GSA Society
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